To keep it short: my ex-wife cheated on me with this guy, we divorced, she married him immediately after. Since January we’ve been co-parenting, she has our son (14 years old) for 2 weeks & I have him for 2 weeks. Her now husband is wealthy, and for the winter holidays they plan on going to the Maldives for 3 weeks (I agreed to give up 1 week of my 2 weeks; gonna get +1 week with son after the vacation). Apparently son has been asking his mom and stepdad if I can come as well. So ex-wife calls me and asks me if I’d like to go, all expenses paid by them, just to be with our son and have some fun - and let’s “put all the bad blood behind”. I told her I’ll think about it, but honestly I don’t think I’d feel comfortable. At the same time going would make son extremely happy obviously. Idk.

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    14 hours ago

    You know a whole lot of parents don’t love their kids and don’t want to spend time with them, right?

    I’d absolutely assume mom & new dad would have several romantic dinners and activites alone while bio-dad entertained his kid.

    edit; oh I see someone grew up in a loving household and assumes they’re all like that

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      14 hours ago

      I don’t think the guy would be pondering on here about going if he didn’t love his kid and didn’t want to spend time with him.

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          14 hours ago

          Even you were talking about the dad, why did the kid suffer because of the mom? He won’t be blind to their actions regardless

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            14 hours ago

            I didn’t say the kid suffered?

            It’s a shitty spot for bio-dad to be in. Kid may see it for what it is and may not. If I were the dad I simply wouldn’t put myself in that sitatution. They can go enjoy their vacation and I’d spend the time with my son after.