First, please be respectful in the comments. I have no idea what the topic was, but apparently it caused a lot of divide. I prefer just the claims and facts, backed by citations, and let me draw my own conclusions. I can think for myself. 😅

I’m curious because it seemed to have happened about a year ago, and then there were concerns of Lemmy being a worse place for women than Reddit.

I don’t really see that now. Granted, I’m new, and maybe it’s the specific communities I subscribed to, but I haven’t really seen much women-hating in posts or comments. If anything, I’ve seen a bias towards liberal viewpoints (many of which I personally agree with, but sometimes the justifications use poor reasoning and almost comes off as a bad defense or covert sabotage).

I’m hoping Lemmy changed for the better in the past year, and I’m not about to be side slammed with some misogyny. 🙏🏼

  • kibiz0r@midwest.socialEnglish
    201·
    11 hours ago

    SnotFlickerman nailed it, so I’ll just add that the “man or bear” saga taught me what a “scissor statement” is.

    For me, that was the biggest revelation of the whole thing.

    You had people encountering the same general words in the same general order, but understanding them to mean completely different things, and not being able to comprehend how anyone could disagree with them.

    It was like a rehash of “the dress”, but not so whimsical.

    It was really kind of distressing, the extent to which it laid bare (no pun intended) how poorly we’re actually communicating with each other online, even though it otherwise seems like we’re communicating more than ever.

    Aaaaand then we just kinda shrugged that off and went back to internet as usual.

    • starman2112@sh.itjust.works
      41·
      2 hours ago

      Jesus Christ. Even if I do think the story is fictional, I could believe that our current media landscape has been ruined by advertising firms.

      Here’s an example of a scissor statement that I’ve been calling out for years: the Israel-Palestine conflict. It’s designed to be something that divides people. Not inviting your israel-supporting aunt to Thanksgiving and blocking your Palestine-supporting nephew is what the Man wants. That conflict, for as strongly as people feel about it here, does not matter to Americans. Nearly as many people have died fighting in the Myanmar civil war, and I don’t know a single person who even has an opinion on that.

    • pycorax@lemmy.world
      2·
      3 hours ago

      Maybe I’m generalising it a bit but it does seem like the main issue is the lack of open mindedness, compassion and an inclination for aggressive responses rather than simply agreeing to disagree.

      Which unfortunately is a difficult thing to achieve since you need both sides to have the same mindset for any healthy discussion to happen. The moment one side decides to be antagonistic, it quickly derails the tone of the conversation regardless how open the other side may be. Heck this happens all the time here. It’s called no stupid questions but people will still flame others for asking questions lol.

      The scissor statement just serves to accelerate whatever problem already exists.