45% of men 18 to 25 have never asked out a woman in person
I can’t speak for the whole 45% but some of us have heard stories from women about how that other 55% can behave. I think I’d rather wait for a lady to (never) ask me out then put someone in the position of thinking “Oh, is he gonna take it bad if I say no?”
The only stories of women with bad experiences I know of weren’t about having to tell somebody ‘No’. They were about having repeatedly say ‘No’ again and again to the same person.
If you ask a woman out and take a ‘No’ gracefully, you are not a bad experience for anybody except you experiencing rejection of course. The hypothetic situation where she considers wether you may take it bad is more about a broader social phenomenon but not about you in that moment. The moment you are like ‘Okay, that’s sad, but I understand’ and go your way, everything will be fine.
You should think about some preconditions about asking her out like not doing it while blocking the only exit or while she’s at work but I guess that counts as “Making a good first impression” anyways regardless of gender.
This is it. I feel like I am inflicting myself on women. That I am a problem for them simply for existing. Why would I do something like that to someone if its as bad as we are always being told?
So walk away from them, or handle it gracefully somehow. It’s the same as trying to make a friend. Doesn’t everyone make friends from time to time?
Interest + effort = relationship of any kind. Find the shared interest, make a little bit of effort… or don’t and the math doesn’t work. If romance doesn’t come, you’ve made a friend.
it’s just that you’re fragile and a disgrace. it’s revolting. the fascists are taking over. grow some confidence. we need heroes, not insecure little boys. you know what will get you laid real quick? bashin the fash.
Yes, fragility is disgracefvll veakness. To defeat the enemy ze men mvst be strong, zey mvst be heroes, zey must have vill to seize vhat zey vant. It vill to pover zat vill tvrn little boys into strong men. Zis is antifascism.
I can’t speak for the whole 45% but some of us have heard stories from women about how that other 55% can behave. I think I’d rather wait for a lady to (never) ask me out then put someone in the position of thinking “Oh, is he gonna take it bad if I say no?”
The only stories of women with bad experiences I know of weren’t about having to tell somebody ‘No’. They were about having repeatedly say ‘No’ again and again to the same person. If you ask a woman out and take a ‘No’ gracefully, you are not a bad experience for anybody except you experiencing rejection of course. The hypothetic situation where she considers wether you may take it bad is more about a broader social phenomenon but not about you in that moment. The moment you are like ‘Okay, that’s sad, but I understand’ and go your way, everything will be fine.
You should think about some preconditions about asking her out like not doing it while blocking the only exit or while she’s at work but I guess that counts as “Making a good first impression” anyways regardless of gender.
This is it. I feel like I am inflicting myself on women. That I am a problem for them simply for existing. Why would I do something like that to someone if its as bad as we are always being told?
And that attitude and thought process is exactly why you would have a hard time dating. Don’t think like that, friend.
Also, some of us are gay.
You’ve drank too much ideological koolaid. People aren’t what you read in the news or a great deal of the internet.
It’s actually really easy to get a date in person if you are not a total ogre and treat women like normal people.
Weirdo white knights can easily end up as incels. Neither of those groups tend to do very well in actual social situations.
Exactly right! Great post!
It’s really easy?
yes
Bachelor pride vibes.
Get out and ask some people. Plenty of women like it as long as you’re polite
Until you approach another wrong one and you get another lecture for saying hi
This shit is actually happening
I’ve never ever had that happen. And I’m old enough to have fucked your grandma when she was still young and cute.
I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but I just don’t think it’s nearly as common as Lemmy likes to believe.
So walk away from them, or handle it gracefully somehow. It’s the same as trying to make a friend. Doesn’t everyone make friends from time to time?
Interest + effort = relationship of any kind. Find the shared interest, make a little bit of effort… or don’t and the math doesn’t work. If romance doesn’t come, you’ve made a friend.
Enough negative experiences reinforce and define behavior.
This is true for any being with a nervous system.
IDK why you think every individual magically changing is something realistic.
Unless you don’t let them.
To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you want to change. You are so resistant to it.
it’s just that you’re fragile and a disgrace. it’s revolting. the fascists are taking over. grow some confidence. we need heroes, not insecure little boys. you know what will get you laid real quick? bashin the fash.
Yes, fragility is disgracefvll veakness. To defeat the enemy ze men mvst be strong, zey mvst be heroes, zey must have vill to seize vhat zey vant. It vill to pover zat vill tvrn little boys into strong men. Zis is antifascism.