• Universal Monk@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    I’ve never understood how/why so many guys on Lemmy (and reddit) are so scared of women.

    I have no problems dating, and I’m poor as fuck and have a face like a foot.

    After reading the responses in this thread, I think it’s all just a bunch of bullshit excuses you all are making up.

    I think you all are just afraid. The lack of confidence I see on Lemmy is insane. Lol

    You all have spent so much time staring at screens, you’re afraid to talk to people in real life.

    Maybe instead of yelling at people on Lemmy who disagree with your politics, you should actually talk to women in real life. Lol

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      3 days ago

      idk im pretty gay, also asexual. I just dislike people in general. I feel like it’s not that hard to be an incel, and i feel like it’s also pretty hard to socialize, but that’s just me i suppose.

      I feel like it’s not that complicated honestly.

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      2 days ago

      Yeah I’m pretty far down the comments here and am just dumbfounded, as a 40+/m. I’m married, so maybe my perspective is skewed, but I’m anxious, introverted, and also don’t feel like dating would be that much of a challenge if I found myself in that scene again.

      For one, rejection isn’t personal. They’re doing me a favor if they decline or ghost me because I’m not going to waste more time on that relationship. I figured that out in my early 20s. I may need a couple weeks or months between because I don’t have an abundance of social energy, but it’s not that big of a deal either.

      And then having hobbies is a great way to meet like-minded people. The more people you encounter with similar interests, the more likely you’ll encounter someone with whom you may connect on another level. It’s more difficult online, so I’d probably spend more time doing my outdoor things (birding, photography, surveying frog calls, etc) rather than gaming. They’re mostly solo hobbies, but I do often find myself meeting people who want to chat about it while I’m out and about.

      I thought I was one of the most socially inept people I know, but I can’t relate to what I’m reading here. Maybe we need to work on our personal boundaries more and understand ourselves better before we’re pursuing relationships.

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        2 days ago

        I thought I was one of the most socially inept people I know, but I can’t relate to what I’m reading here.

        Right? Like I said, I’m not skilled any anything, and don’t have any looks going for me. And I’ve never had a problem dating. This thread kinda backs up almost all the stereotypes people have of maladjusted misfits online. lol

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      3 days ago

      I think you all are just afraid. The lack of confidence I see on Lemmy is insane. Lol

      Ha, lol, people have fears and self confidence issues.

      You all have spent so much time staring at screens, you’re afraid to talk to people in real life.

      I get that it takes work to overcome self confidence issues, it does to get over any problem. But to just dismiss a myriad of potential issues and personal circumstances as “oh you nerds just need to touch grass and talk to people” is pretty reductive.

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        2 days ago

        Ha, lol, people have fears and self confidence issues.

        Sure. But Lemmy seems to have a LOT more of that than the regular population.

        But to just dismiss a myriad of potential issues and personal circumstances as “oh you nerds just need to touch grass and talk to people” is pretty reductive.

        Read the entire thread. I stand by what I said.