Pretty sure she wanted an icebreaker to reach a coworker that hasn’t said “hi” yet. Not everything is about “being into someone”, it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.
So if she thinks it’s weird that he hasn’t said hi, why wouldn’t she just say “hi”? There’s literally a million other polite and innocuous things to say besides “why do you look angry.” Just the fact that they work together means they have to communicate at some point for their jobs.
it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.
Who would care? I will never understand why people minding their own business bother other people so much. If she makes the choice to internalize someone else’s demeanor and facial expressions that have absolutely zero to do with her, then that’s her own insecurities coming through and she should probably look up some therapists.
I half agree. It wasn’t the most tactful opener but I do believe she just wanted to talk. Maybe she was in to him, maybe she was just bored.
Pretty sure she wanted an icebreaker to reach a coworker that hasn’t said “hi” yet. Not everything is about “being into someone”, it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.
So if she thinks it’s weird that he hasn’t said hi, why wouldn’t she just say “hi”? There’s literally a million other polite and innocuous things to say besides “why do you look angry.” Just the fact that they work together means they have to communicate at some point for their jobs.
Who would care? I will never understand why people minding their own business bother other people so much. If she makes the choice to internalize someone else’s demeanor and facial expressions that have absolutely zero to do with her, then that’s her own insecurities coming through and she should probably look up some therapists.
So many assumptions over a greentext. I love that you diagnosed a person you have never met, over one sentence.
Maybe stop doing that.
Or maybe she’s just Canadian and being polite, it’s really impossible to tell.
Except asking why you look angry all the time isn’t remotely polite. Not everything needs to be a reference
I can see the angle where it isn’t meant as something offensive, but yeah it’s not the best question to just leap into as an opener.