When I was a kid, my mom always be holding my hands, especially like when we cross the streets. And I remember at the time, I kinda half disliked it, because I always felt like my movements were being too restrictive, like… I feel like I was too close and I wanted to like move around, look at surroundings, trees, squirrels, etc… She was always afraid I’d get lost, or like… god forbid… get hit by a car.
She also tried to hold my older brother’s hand with her other hand, but he of couse was older and felt embarassed by it so he refused.
I sometimes just run off and go ahead of her because I was bored and felt like she walked too slow, and like I wanted to peek inside a store from the glass window, for example, then we get to a crossing, and she grabs my hand again. Now thinking back, that was actually so wholesome. Like it kinda feels safe and secure being held on to closely.
The memories I remembered of this was around when I was 8-12. Any older than that and I think I just got tired of it and embarassed and I refused lol.
My dad never tried to hold my hands… I guess fathers are just different lol.
Did your parents do that? Did you like it?
Sorry if this is not the tine to ask, but: Curious what aspect made it weird?
Was it like… sexual or anything?
Because afiak, I never ever thought hand holding was in anyway sexual, especially between parent-child. I’m from a East Asian culture, and although spouses rarely show affection, usually parent-child relationships are pretty normal. I don’t think anything would even bat an eye if a father held the hands of the daughter. But in America, that’s somehow weird? Idk, cultural differences.
He put his hand on my lower back after puberty, where before he’d just hold my hand. I should probably have clarified that. My dad was not an affectionate man.
This was also in the early 00s when purity balls were common, so having attended one of those I definitely feel like his hand placement was possesive
Oh that’s… definitely creepy…