The greatest song about accepting your struggles as key to making you who you are, while also refusing to pass that generational trauma on to your own children, is Johnny Cash / Shel Silverstein’s “A Boy Named Sue”
*Bonus points for implicitly understanding the trauma of being misgendered.
Only I some versions. In some the singer decided to name their child sue as well, perpetuating the trauma
This is known as “ruining the song.”