A screenshot of a Tweet that reads: “Men a so weird. When they find something disgusting online they get all ecited and immediately go to share it with all of their pals lmao”

    • sab@kbin.social
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      6 months ago

      There’s so many weird societal constructs about how men are supposed to behave. I have never encountered any of that shit with my friends, but that’s probably partly due to a selection process where I have no interest befriending people who display toxic masculinity traits.

      If you genuinely think men obsess over disgusting shit and talk about who they want to fuck all the time, maybe take a moment to reconsider a) who you’re hanging out with or b) the cultural impulses you allow to shape your perception of the world.

      I think the main reason men act this way is that they’re trying to fit into an image of masculinity that has been imposed on them, in part through tweets such as this one.

      • Afghaniscran@feddit.uk
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        6 months ago

        Toxic masculinity?

        I’ve never known anyone except people on the internet to be all “everyone should be themselves and do what they enjoy”

        And then when someone enjoys something that they don’t like it’s suddenly “No, not like that! That’s toxic!”

        If you don’t like “disgusting” things or dark humour that’s absolutely fine but don’t call people toxic for liking it. I would say that’s a toxic trait in itself.

        I find feet disgusting but I’m not here to call someone toxic cos they have a foot fetish.

        • sab@kbin.social
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          I am not talking about people enjoying things that I don’t personally enjoy, I was talking about an instinct that men (allegedly) have to share quote disgusting stuff with each other.

          This post doesn’t seem to me to be about sharing a weird common interest with your friends. There’s nothing (inherently) toxic nor gendered about having weird hobbies.

          The post is about seeing something disgusting and immediately sharing it with all your friends who will also be disgusted, and portrays this as if it’s just a completely normal thing for men to do. And while I can kind of understand where the assumption that men behave like that comes from, I have never experienced anything like that with any of my friends, and I’m pretty sure I never will. So it seems like a bit of a misrepresentation.

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              6 months ago

              I could have been clearer - it kind of has to be read in context of how I personally interpreted the original post. So no worries at all obviously. :)

      • real_MS@sh.itjust.worksOP
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        6 months ago

        I think people just have very different definitions of “disgusting”. I thought of stuff like “hahahah the throw up because Surströmming” and not “people die in the most horrible way possible”. Wtf.

        • Leg@lemmy.world
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          6 months ago

          Yeah, I was picturing, like, Meat Canyon or Pregnant Sonic the Hedgehog x Shrek fanart. Disgusting-haha, not disgusting-snuff. I share gross stuff with my friends all the time, because cursed shares are weird and funny.

  • XTL@sopuli.xyz
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    6 months ago

    Sexists are so weird. They hear about one person one having done something and then post how all people of the evil sex are disgusting because they always do this.

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        I don’t feel victimised because it’s true

        It was the same when you heard an unreasonably sick joke as a kid; you were just bursting at the seams to tell someone else

        Unless you were a boring cunt, of course

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          6 months ago

          I’m just joking about how sexist jokes about women are serious business and very problematic and when it’s about men it’s just a joke don’t take it so seriously.

          Not sure how some people manage to have such serious double standards. It’s silly

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    6 months ago

    There’s definitely some friends who participate in “I suffered psychic damage seeing this, so now you have to”

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    Funny enough, it was a girl who first showed me 2 girls 1 cup and a video of a beheading.

    The only disgusting thing that a guy sent me was a security camera footage of someone’s glove getting caught in a rapidly spinning axle. The victim was… all over the place. I wish I still had it, it would’ve been very effective for safety training.

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      6 months ago

      It’s here if you want to see it

      If you click on the link and complain it upset you, that’s your own fucking stupidity at work

  • fsxylo@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    I think everyone on their first job needs to see that LiveLeak video of a guy getting stuck in a lathe so they know not to fuck around.

    Spoiler alert: the human body has more in common with a spool of thread than you think.

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    True. In the 2000s i was one of the few people in my school who knew how to find fucked up videos. I was like a gore dealer. My friends and I would download things for people. They would mostly request porn, movies, games and TV shows. After 2 girls 1 cup lots of people would ask for gore and shock videos. Like isis chainsaw beheading, African village pedo beaten eel soup. Always men never women but that might have been cause the high-school was all male.

    I got so desensitized after watching 100s of videos of people brutally dying but after not watching anything gory for a few years I went back to normal and have normal reactions to the extreme videos. I can’t even watch fight videos anymore because seeing someone get their head stomped is to much.

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      Always men never women but that might have been cause the high-school was all male.

      ???

      I have a very slight suspicion that might be the reason. Not willing to call it just yet, though.

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    6 months ago

    its so infuriating that this kind of messed up behavior is normalized as boys will be boys.

    i still vividly remember that one kid on the shool bus that showed everyone some “music video” from youtube.

    which contained a clip of a middle eastern women being held at gunpoint and screaming in fear before she was executed to the base drop amongst a flood of other fucked up/vile imagery.

    • Wilzax@lemmy.world
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      Yeah that isn’t what people mean when they say “Boys will be boys”