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  • Exactly this. It can absolutely be a fulfilling relationship, but it takes significantly more work than being a pair does.

    It also isn’t a good fit for everyone. You have to be not only extremely confident in the existing relationship, but also secure enough in yourself to understand that your partners are going to have independent relationships with each other just like you have an independent relationship with each of them. A lot of people just struggle with that.

    Personally I find it to be a very rewarding experience, but I full expect that to not be the case for most.

    If it is something OP decides to engage with I would definitely recommend lots of reading on poly relationships, seeing a relationship counselor who specializes in open \ poly relationships, and visiting poly forums to talk about the potential pitfalls \rewards.















  • As a DM, there are two reasons I ask this kind of question.

    If it’s a player that I know is comfortable playing their role, then I am trying to get them to lean into the scene to assist with story pacing, or potentially to reveal additional information.

    There are still benefits to asking it though, even if a player is not comfortable playing out the scene. Even without a spotlighted stage, you can still obtain a lot of character development by asking for additional clarity. For instance, did the character want to use a cheesy pickup line, or maybe a humorous anecdote, maybe they want to be really suave.

    I would probably ask some leading questions like the above, but that additional info can still greatly expand the scene without turning it into a night at the improv.





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    9 months ago

    Depends on your age bracket, in my opinion.

    At 20, it’s like catching the game winning touchdown for the national championship when your team was the underdog.

    At 40, it’s like winning a hundred bucks on a lottery scratcher.

    At 50, it’s like getting a free order of onion rings with your meal.

    At 60, it’s like getting an extra nugget in your 9 piece.