Taffer

Taffer is a curse word in the Thief video games which I grew up on. I don’t even like laffy taffy that much.

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Ah, my only context was what little I’ve picked up about Krem and Dorian(as well as an explanation about how the Qun is sexist to the point of wrapping around to be progressive), and assurances from people that the games have always been like that.

Even still, from a 15 year old series, that still manages to be a lot gayer than most.

I am nonbinary, I haven’t played a Dragon Age game before Veilguard, I haven’t yet gotten to this one scene that’s apparently damned the entire franchise, nor have I even met Taash(?) yet. Here’s my off the cuff rambling thoughts:

I’ve just now watched the scene devoid of context, and if that’s where the misgendering conversation started and stopped, I think everyone is wildly overreacting. The first minute is fine, a weird older lady apologizes for screwing up in her own way, I’ve had people react in much stranger ways than that, and in it’s own way “Whoops I fucked up, lemme do some push ups to show I feel bad” is kinda sweet. I’ll concede that the explanation after was heavy handed, but you could definitely include the gist of it somewhere else easily. “Don’t be weird, just say sorry and move on” is the correct advice to give to someone who doesn’t know how to interact with trans people but wants to be supportive. If that last minute of the conversation happened somewhere else in the game, it’d have been fine.

The game overall has been mediocre so far, a solid 6 out of 10, nothing to write home about, but certainly not deserving of the flak it’s been getting. This is one of the first games I’ve played where I feel like I’m represented, I think it might be the first major game where you can make a custom character who’s explicitly transgender, and that counts for something in my book.

From where I’m standing, it really feels like a lot of the outrage DA:V is drawing comes from some discomfort(conscious or no) with having the queer experience very out in the open for everyone to see, which is what I would expect from a series that (as far as I can tell) has always had tons of explicitly queer characters. I’m sure that’s not universally the case, but I simply don’t buy this narrative of “I’m fine with trans people, but the way it’s written is so clunky.” because I’ve had almost the polar opposite experience. I can think of few other games that talk about transness in the way that actual trans people talk about it.

misgnedering

I actually go by a different name now that has a different reason to it, but that’s the logic a lot of other friends stuck with, a username or game character they connect with. One of my best friends is named Ikora because of the Destiny character for instance.

Gonna do my best to avoid doxxing myself, but the name I go by now I chose for a few reasons:

• It’s a traditional Irish name, I’ve learned in the last couple years that I’m almost completely ethnically Irish.
• It’s fairly gender neutral at least by American standards, so it doesn’t necessarily out me as trans while I’m still pretty early in transitioning.
• I took it from an old folk song I grew up with, so there’s also personal history and ties to my family with it.

Ultimately everyone is gonna have their own reasons for the name they choose, but I’ve tried a couple names over the years to see which ones fit. Sometimes I’ve had ones that I felt a real connection to, but it felt all wrong to get called it. It’s one of those things that can be a journey while you transition.

Also speaking from personal experience, the trans folks I know are delighted to explain why they chose the name the did. It’s not impolite at all to ask, just so long as it’s not the very first thing you ask lol.

I feel like it’s probably pretty common for trans folks who spend a lot of time online. The internet was where we got to explore ourselves.

I’m trans and the name I chose is based off an old username of mine because I got more used to people calling me that.

Come to think of it a lot of my trans friends did something similar.

I understand why Harry Potter found a place in everyone’s hearts. But with the behavior of the author, the books are in hindsight a lot more mean spirited than I remembered. That hatred for me and my loved ones bled into the books quite a lot now that I can recognize it.

No that’s the Rubicon. Rubric is the guy who directed The Shining

I didn’t think that was a real line until I started playing last month and of course that clown would be the one to say it.

I do this too. Instead of minis, I tape a drawing onto a Starburst and whoever kills the monster gets to eat the Starburst. I’m gonna have to get something like a donut for the boss fight at the end of the adventure I’m running rn.

The term you’re looking for is cisgender. Trans = “on the other side of”, cis = “on this side of”

We can clown on the dude without using that kind of language in a demeaning way.

God Thi4f is an obscure pull but with my username I obviously feel the pain on that one.

Bummed out to not get any more news on Death Stranding 2, I’d been looking forward to it for weeks. But this teaser is really intriguing, gave a lot of things for me and my friends to speculate on.