It took me a while to figure out. Like I knew Southerners can be mean and judgy, but I didn’t think about how until I traveled to other places and saw how much more straightforward people are. It’s nice when kindness is kindness and there’s no underlying meaning.

Proudly have never had that said to me lol

It’s a subtly, yeah. There’s a lot of reading between the lines along, which is annoying if you’re not used to it.

Growing up in the South is learning to be mean by way of looking nice.

Not really. They never wanted a large instance and didn’t want to become a Reddit replacement. I see them more like a federated Tildes, honestly.