i mean, this is the real answer yeah. but i’m liking @Nemo@slrpnk.net’s answer and will begin enforcing ‘honored ancestor’ instead of my name.

edit: if it doesnt like properly this time it’s never going to…

some people don’t like personalizations. this is the first account in at least 10 yrs i picked a username for. normally it’s just the string a password generator spit out. this time, i guess i figured after surving 18 months on world before deleting the account and moving. i could put 5 seconds into picking a name, since i’ll likely be on lemmy until it dies. at some point in the next year i may add the word ‘no’ to my bio but thats an excessive amount of personalization for me.

came here to suggest journaling as well. and if you’ve already had a good experiance with it, all the better. during my divorce, the only other person i felt connected with offered to “help fix me” if i’d just give them a pass on all my established boundries. i declined and we parted ways. filled at least two books that year but it gave me a place to talk outside my head. it was enough to get me to each next day. that gave me time to let connections with other people develop on terms i was comfortable with.

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