I’ve finally run into a new, third problem: managers who get angry as soon as they’re confused, but refuse to learn basics. My project manager is a fucking nightmare to deal with. The moment, and I mean the first sign that she’s not 100% totally understanding what’s being discussed, she shuts down, gets dismissive and short, and refuses to hear anything further.
I don’t work in IT and the rest of the story doesn’t carry over, but I just left a boss behind who behaved exactly like that. Some sort of insecurity, probably about being in a leadership position in the first place.
I think it’s dumb; if you’ve been thrown into the hierarchy sideways and want to become a good leader you need to listen to people even if it means eating some humble pie.
I’m not skilled socially. I’m annoying, I get that. But this is mad.
I don’t work in IT and the rest of the story doesn’t carry over, but I just left a boss behind who behaved exactly like that. Some sort of insecurity, probably about being in a leadership position in the first place.
I think it’s dumb; if you’ve been thrown into the hierarchy sideways and want to become a good leader you need to listen to people even if it means eating some humble pie.
Yep, that’s me, too.
I think this is correct answer. Maybe afraid of losing her job, definitely insecure.
Also I think the answer is to push back. Call out the anger and refuse to deal with it until she calms down.