• garbagebagel@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Y’all I’ve been too embarrassed to tell my therapist but the way I pulled myself out of a deep depression a few months ago was because I started masturbating regularly, which I had never done before. It’s not working very well anymore but now when I talk to them it’s like “oh well what were you doing differently last time you felt better?” Idk man, it’s a mystery.

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      3 months ago

      If you can’t talk to your therapist about this l, they may not be the right therapist for you.

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      3 months ago

      no psychologist here, but wouldn’t the “doing nothing different” be the cause?

      maybe try a few toys, there’s so many types these days, putting stuff up in the ass is also a good choice, lots of pleasure points there for both sexes

      maybe you could find some relieve exploring your own body? that worked somewhat for me, maybe I’ve become a pervert or a degenerate, but I feel very good about myself and with myself

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        3 months ago

        For the record I love this comment, but find it funny that the answer to depression is just “try putting stuff up your butt”.

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        3 months ago

        Also just talking about your kinks and other things you’re ashamed of with people you trust is really helpful in clearing that. Shame will hold you back from being true to yourself, and it’s not worth it.

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        3 months ago

        Exploring my body unfortunately causes quite a bit of dysphoria for me which is why I rarely used to do it in the first place, but maybe I’ll work with them on that issue first and then I can try exploring haha.

        You’re not a pervert, it’s great you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself (as long as you’re not doing it in front of non-consenting parties…)

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      3 months ago

      It served as a source of novel pleasure, now it’s just pleasure. Something else that’s new and exciting could be what you’re looking for, just make sure it doesn’t turn to excessive drug use or something else thats irresponsible

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    3 months ago

    are u masturbating sleeping because you’re horny sleepy or because you’re depressed and need the dopamine

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      3 months ago

      Can’t be depressed while you’re asleep. My coping mechanism numero uno

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      3 months ago

      I also rub one out every time I read a comment from a no-fapper

      Based.

      November is exhausting

      Sad but true. Still, thank you for your service O7

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    3 months ago

    Man I need a therapist fr, leaving ex to take care of my self, lots of anxiety xd

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        1 month ago

        Progress update, been going out with friends a bunch, every weekend, concert, movies n shiz. Invited friends to my house for a party n shiz and was fun, got laid with one of the friends I’ve been hanging out the most. It’s chill tho it’s kinda a bit of friends with benefits, but ahahaha they’re like sooo much nicer and sweeter with hella more interests in common compared to my last ex. I wont end up dating them cuz I just wanna have friends but it makes me happy knowing that my standards could be way higher for next time.

        I’ve been feeling hella more self motivated and awake, more than ever. Going from an online relationship to actually going out n shiz is like the best thing I’ve done. It’s tragic how my last relationship ended but now I’m a bit more glad it happened. Still friends with them msg them ocassionally but I had taken a long break from them to reset my mindset.

        I’m enjoying my friends, the one friend with benefits might end up to come back to bite me in the ass due to getting feelings but we’re still being good friends and they already asked if I wanna hang out this weekend again ahahah. Life good atm, but will def get a therapist at some point.