• H1jAcK@lemm.ee
      68·
      2 months ago

      It helps, but then you have to supplant your own meaning life, or one can very quickly spiral into doing nothing and becoming depressed. Capitalism sucks, but work doesn’t; it gives us direction and purpose.

      • Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.worldOP
        16·
        2 months ago

        My friend, I assume, and I find plenty of meaning in accomplishing simple tasks and finding interesting ways to express ourselves. No labor needed. Only little rabbit holes to constantly fall into.

        Edit: btw I don’t approve of all the downvotes you got. A lot of meaning can be found in, exhausting, intense, hard work. Most of that is stripped away by being forced to do it, though.

    • Today@lemmy.world
      13·
      2 months ago

      Mine eventually (after years) faded into the background and now it only really bothers me if I’m in a quiet place.

    • Ioughttamow@fedia.io
      8·
      2 months ago

      Just live in a loud environment! Oh god I wish I could know silence again. Nothing like going out into nature and you hear a ringing the whole time

  • H1jAcK@lemm.ee
    29·
    2 months ago

    Probably a loving partner, and enough therapy to be able to have a healthy relationship. But that’s a lot of work, so I mostly try to be happy in my solitude.

    • Pilon23@feddit.dk
      3·
      2 months ago

      Sleep’s one of the best free pleasures around. It’s free, it heals your body and mind, and just feels good.

      I’ve fought a lot with insomnia in recent years and truly appreciate when I’m able to get a good night’s sleep. I’d rather have a bit shorter days, but feel much better due to being well rested whenever possible. How does sleeping make you feel guilty?

    • arin@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      2 months ago

      All these new science and technology advancements and our politicians are still frothing corrupt conartists lying to the public to increase their own power and wealth at the cost of humanity.

    • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
      3·
      2 months ago

      this might sound cliché, but what if the start of non-judgment is within yourself? you’ve already judged society to be too judgmental!

      I dont mean to play tricks with you. this is the central struggle of having a mind. we constantly evaluate everything!

      • SavvyWolf@pawb.socialEnglish
        2·
        2 months ago

        Indeed, it’s something I think about quite a bit. The conclusion I’ve come to involves consent: If all people involved in something fully understand and consent to what is happening, then they should not be “judged” for it.

        And yes, I know there are holes and loopholes in that conclusion, but I think it’s nearly impossible to have a logically sound and consistent moral framework.

        • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
          1·
          2 months ago

          Thanks for the response!

          If all people involved in something fully understand and consent to what is happening, then they should not be “judged” for it.

          Here’s the thing: this statement still hasn’t entered into non-judgment itself. When you use the word “should” you’re already holding one thing higher than the other. And again, this is natural for us to want to do! But who is consenting to this moral framework in the first place?

          That’s more than a loophole or caveat – it’s a limitation of all judgment. Judgments don’t exist in the world; they are passed by judging creatures. So the only way to find a world without judgment is to, at the very least, practice separating yourself from your own judgments. Seeing the world for what it is, we can pause in our concern for what ought to be.

        • Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.worldOP
          1·
          2 months ago

          nearly impossible to have a logically sound and consistent moral framework.

          Moral belief, I agree with. Framework sounds much more maleable. I think it’s doable but you need tolerances. Since a framework would shape your belief and everyone have to fill in the blanks for themselves. Two different people could have wildly different conclusions working with the same moral outline. We have to allow for failings but also recognize the failings and adapt. If there is some give and allowances for people to be wrong it makes it less strenuous and easier to uphold your own personal morality.

          Like or not Christianity deals with this. It’s a confusing system, purposefully so church leaders can police it, but jesus offers forgiveness. They are so confident in it that Jesus can offer forgiveness for things that no normal person would be able to. I’m not saying the Christian implementation is the right one but I think it allowed the religion to flourish.

  • EnderMB@lemmy.world
    13·
    2 months ago

    My daughter to be happy.

    Also, for her to manage a single night with solid sleep, so I’m not replying to threads about happiness on Lemmy at 5am. That would also be nice.

    • grudan@programming.dev
      2·
      2 months ago

      If I didn’t have a job, I’d probably still work, and I’d probably be working partly for money, partly for something to do. I just wouldn’t be answering to someone else. I think “work” is misunderstood. It doesn’t have to be a bad experience, but I understand it often is. I wish more people had jobs they liked, I think that’s a better solution.

  • taiyang@lemmy.world
    11·
    2 months ago

    To get the kids to bed and start up a video game. That’s all. That’s all it takes for me now a days.

  • That_Devil_Girl@lemmy.ml
    11·
    2 months ago

    Life stability and security. If all of my bills and debts were taken care of, I would be happy. I love my job as a welder and enjoy what I do. I look forward to the new work week on Monday morning.

    I would continue working as a welder, even if I didn’t have to worry about money and bills.

      • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeEnglish
        6·
        2 months ago

        I’m not sure if that will help. I’ve been what people would call emotionally numb for a while. Most of how I come across as feeling comes from memory of feeling that way.

        • Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.worldOP
          2·
          2 months ago

          I think this applies to me too. Being properly medicated helps. End of the day though I’m not really sure what would “make me happy.” Personally, I’d like to reduce stressors and spend more time being creative. I usually don’t have the mental capacity to stay focused enough after work.

          I do get glimpses of happiness. I’m probably more in touch with my vulnerable side, though. Finding something that will release some water from my eyes always gets backfilled with a feeling of relief and joy. Last time I got high and watched the boy the mole the fox and the horse, I was balling. It felt good. I just hope you don’t take pride in the hardened shell that’s grown around you. You’ll never be motivated to chisel away at it.

          • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeEnglish
            2·
            2 months ago

            Name checks out hugs @Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world Maybe not something I’d feel for myself, but I’d be happy being here for you if we find each other around and there’s ever anything you might need, such as a favor or collab. Time spent with friends and other “apophenia” are the closest I get to being normal in this regard anyways.