• chaogomu@kbin.social
      1522·
      11 months ago

      There might be a link between the bans from dating apps and the “not been in a long-term relationship”…

    • OneOrTheOtherDontAskMe@lemmy.world
      416·
      11 months ago

      My wife’s best friend has been banned a couple times and is waiting to appeal her tinder ban again.

      Although often justifiable based on the ways these guys have acted/spoke to her, it’s usually because she’s super ruthless in her response. A guy got mad she wasn’t interested in just being a booth call after she said she’s there for dates too, said she was after a free meal (paying hadn’t come up yet, and she always pays for herself unless a guy insists) and so she tore into him. And she’s brutal. Another had ghosted her after rescheduling on the date twice and saying stuff came up and that he’s busy (days after the fact, no check in or nothing) and so she told him that’s some horse shit and that he’s a little bitch that needs to get his life in order if he’s gonna stand somebody up twice after begging for a second chance.

      She definitely could be nicer sometimes, but from what I’ve read from her it’s no different than how I see a lot of dudes talk on there, I think those guys just got their feelings hurt more than standard tinder girls do.

    • Clbull@lemmy.world
      8·
      11 months ago

      I used to go to school with a lady that was perma banned from Tinder last year. My guess is she replied to creepy/perverted messages with enough hostility that they yeeted her straight off the platform.

    • Ookami38@sh.itjust.works
      71·
      11 months ago

      In all honesty I’ve gotten banned from a couple. Turns out they don’t usually take account security super seriously. Stop using it for a bit, and suddenly it’s sending out obvious scam bait messages lol

    • Polyester6435@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      52·
      11 months ago

      You can also get banned from dating apps for not using them the way the app wants you to. For example not messaging people back or not swiping right enough on tinder.

    • cro_magnon_gilf@sopuli.xyz
      2·
      11 months ago

      I’ve literally been asking that question. A lot of people never get to know why they’re banned.

      Match Group owns the biggest ones, and sometimes people seem to get banned from all of them at once.

      But Google Play Store also disallows installing dating apps for some people. Very unclear why, because there’s no official word on them doing it.

      Maybe it’s for legitimate reasons, but given these companies dominance, I find it disconcerning.

    • Skyline969@lemmy.caEnglish
      43·
      11 months ago

      Seriously. You need to really try to get banned from a dating app, let alone apps plural.

  • Szymon@lemmy.caEnglish
    725·
    11 months ago

    I’m sure there are countless social or personal reasons for it, but kids having kids without being taught responsibility or how life works means you get a lot of unfortunate children growing up who were never taught about making plans and goals in life, nor are they provided resources to be successful past childhood when you’re just expected to exist and nobody gives a flying fuck about you.

    • JustMy2c@lemm.ee
      11·
      11 months ago

      I uploaded a single photo that showed my clothed body and my smile, but not my nose/eyes. DONE BLOCKED ZZZ

      I told a lady I was not interested in a non attacking way (mentioning I was not over my ex yet and needed some more time) DONE BLOCKED ZZZ

  • FrostyTheDoo@lemmy.world
    111·
    11 months ago

    Methinks the last item on the list might be somehow affecting the others…but certainly life is just hell for this guy and there’s nothing that can be done but type about it

  • Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
    3·
    11 months ago

    It’s actually quite an impressive feat to fuck your life up that badly. This person has absolutely nothing going for them whatsoever.

  • PeWu@lemmy.ml
    2·
    11 months ago

    Ooh, I have 5/9. Four more to go!

    Edit: apparently I can’t read and count

    • LotrOrc@lemmy.world
      373·
      11 months ago

      If you’re getting banned from dating apps you might wanna take a look at yourself and what you’re saying or doing

      • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world
        3·
        11 months ago

        Not having a license isn’t actually an issue; you can save a lot of money by not driving a car.

        This guy is probably just depressed and the lack of sympathy and support from others is only exacerbating and perpetuating the problem. People like him need love and support from external sources to be able to heal their inner wounds and fix their problems.

        Life stuff like what he’s listing is never the actual source of the problem.

    • 768@sh.itjust.works
      171·
      11 months ago

      This person is not even among the unemployed reservation, so how is this about capitalism?

      • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
        85·
        11 months ago

        They have no value to capitalism other than raw, unskilled, undifferentiated labour and consumption. They are nothing but the grease that gets mashed into the gears of the machine.

        I think humans are worth more than that, and OP’s framing.

        • 768@sh.itjust.works
          92·
          11 months ago

          Please read the post. It says no job, no education. Person likely has mental illnesses, this is not about economics. The situation is political, sure, but this is not the best place to unionise.

          They are nothing but the grease that gets mashed into the gears of the machine.

          Ok, poet.

          • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
            31·
            11 months ago

            Do you image that a comfortable existence for those that you assume are mentally ill isn’t gated behind economic decisions?

            Who is talking about unions?

          • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
            1·
            11 months ago

            The full quote is

            You must be either the servant or the master, the hammer or the anvil.

            Surely there was no reason to hide the argument that servants and masters are a necessity in advancement of the point you’re outsourcing to someone that died over 300 years ago in defence today’s economic structure?

            • MindSkipperBro12@lemmy.world
              12·
              11 months ago

              We still heed the advices of Adam Smith, Henry George, Karl Marx, etc. What’s so different about an Enlightenment writer?

              • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
                1·
                11 months ago

                Noone was citing those figures, but Marx saw the industrial revolution, at least. We take what’s relevant, and dismiss what isn’t - implying Voltaire was smart, so we should uncritically agree with everything he wrote is unhinged.

                Would you rather defend the necessity of the master/servant model, or concede that the argument you outsourced is irrelevant pre-industrial nonsense?

          • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
            15·
            11 months ago

            People have no value beyond what the market dictates?

            This baby is crawling in front of me? No value, no point in stepping around it - Guess I’ll stomp its skull into the pavement.

            This is deeply unhinged, and you should be institutionalised before you kill people.

            • curiousaur@reddthat.com
              31·
              11 months ago

              No, this banned from dating apps, which means at best misogynist, at worst rapist, trash of a 30-something year old man is worthless. Babies are precious, what on earth motivated you to make that comparison?

              • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
                22·
                11 months ago

                So someone’s worth is defined by their adherence to Tinder’s TOS? This is all you’re basing this assessment on?

                Shall we put autists in camps for missing social cues and making people feel uncomfortable too?

                Maybe they’re mysoginistic, maybe they’re a rapist… or maybe they’re awkward, and had shit opportunities/parents - you can’t know, and to rush to write them off like that seems pretty bloodthirsty.

          • pinkdrunkenelephants@lemmy.world
            2·
            11 months ago

            It literally doesn’t even matter; he’s looking for sympathy and support which he has the right to seek out regardless of who is responsible.

            So you can choose to quibble over who should bear the blame for his problems or you can console him like you’re supposed to be doing.

    • Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
      2·
      11 months ago

      How are shareholders making money off an alcoholic NEET? Apart from him buying the cheapest possible booze they can get their hands on, obviously.

      • WaxedWookie@lemmy.world
        1·
        11 months ago

        They get labour at poverty rates under threat of homelessness and starvation, and a hungry mouth to create (limited) demand for goods.