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      That was my first thought. I’ve lived in the suburbs and the city and I’ve spent a bit of time in the middle of nowhere. A secluded lake side cabin could be peaceful but if you’re there all alone in the middle of the night it’s just the opening scene of a horror movie.

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    Probably Hawaii due to the local culture, especially if you get out of Honolulu. Otherwise Alaska due to the extremely low population density.

    In the contiguous states, maybe Vermont, NH, Maine due to culture, possibly Wyoming due to low density.

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      7 months ago

      i am terrified to learn that Alaska has proportionally almost double the stats of violent crime and rape per capita as the country average. turns out all that empty space does not really help.

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        Yeah, that’s a little weird. Subjectively though, you could do the offgrid cabin-in-the-woods thing and hardly ever see another human more easily if you wanted. Statistically those people won’t make a blip in the bigger picture due to how few there are, but as an individual experience it’d be difficult to find something more peaceful than that kind of Thoreau experience.

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    Vermont is definitely high up on the list, despite that moron shooting those poor Palestinian gentlemen recently. I have family up there and I know for a fact Burlington really pulled together for that family in the wake of the shooting.

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      No outdoor advertisements/billboards, very few national chains, very protective of local business, everyone is very connected with the land and their community. Vermont is awsome.

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        I also really liked Vermont while I lived there, and everything that you mentioned are great features. That said, the state (and much of New England) is overwhelmingly white. I am white-passing, but my spouse is not, and they felt consistently othered while we lived there. Not in an aggressive or hateful way, but in a “strangers see me as a novelty” way that you tend to get in homogenous communities. Burlington is probably a bit more diverse than the relative middle of nowhere where we lived, so your mileage may vary.

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          I can 100% see that in Vermont, New Hampshire and Maine. Super white washed and no industry to bring in fresh faces, just generational residency.

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    Probably Wyoming by definition, there are fewer people in that big ass state than there are in many big cities

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      common statistical error. less people equals less crime, true, but when you are an individual person seeking peace/safety as an individual the far more valuable stat is the per capita which normalizes for the population. by this measure, Maine is #1 with Wyoming at #5/50 but with double the violent crime per capita.

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    I think Washington state is pretty chill, others include Montana, Massachusetts, and New Hampshire

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      Until recently I would have agreed, but currently things seem to be in a state of flux. There has been a lot of unprovoked violence post pandemic, and not a lot of agreement about what to do about it.

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      As an autistic gay person, I disagree that weather is the only determining factor in choosing a rural home. Plenty of amazing an fulfilling rural places to live, but certainly not all of them.