Could be as trivial as a type of food, a TV show, or something more serious.
Socializing. There are lots of benefits to being connected, but I just can’t stand people. People are the worst, and yeah, that includes me.
Social interaction. It would be nice to not just be so exhausted talking to people. It would be nice to not dread the idea of sending someone a text, like it’s some insane mental effort and not the smallest thing. It would be nice to not be lonely but totally unwilling to do what it takes to correct it.
I’m totally the same. Last night a coworker text me to let me know they would be back in the office tomorrow after taking a couple days off. It took me almost 10 minutes to come up with “ok, see you tomorrow then”. I rewrote that text at least a dozen times. Why the hell is something so simple a monumental effort for me?
Often. But more often not. It’s nice to be alone, because a lot of human interaction involves unnecessary drama. Maybe it’s just our brains protecting us.
I like that idea. Currently at a coffee shop alone. No panicking brain trying to keep up with the processing right or wrong actions.
Gym exercise.
For most of my life I always hated the idea of exercise just for the sake of exercise. I would try to find activities where exercise was an associated benefit. Hiking, skateboarding, rock climbing etc. Eventually being an adult slowly killed all of my recreational fitness outlets and I ended up teetering on the edge of overweight.
With the goal of getting back in shape, I tried a few gyms but I never got into it. It always felt like a chore. Turns out the problem for me was that I am a cheap bastard, and I was only considering the least expensive discount shitty gyms. One of my friends convinced me to try out a pricier more fully featured gym and it made a huge difference. Well maintained equipment, group classes, child care while you work out, showers that didn’t scare me. It was a lot less intimidating, and it switched the gym experience from feeling like a chore to feeling like a break.
It’s been a couple years now, and I’ll say, having once thought I’d never be a gym person, I’m now definitely a gym person.
Not saying it’d be the same for everyone, just what ended up working for me.
I’m the same and as someone who’s worked remotely for 10 years, my life was way too sedentary. I got a dog which helped as the guilt of not walking her is plenty of motivation to get out daily, but whilst it helps, it wasn’t exactly making me fit and healthy, just a bit LESS unhealthy.
I discovered rock climbing 3 months ago though and my life is completely changed, all exercise and diet is done with my current project route in mind and after 3 months I’m already far healthier and stronger than I’ve ever been before.
Phenomenal sport, as someone who HATES the gym I really recommend everyone tries it at least once. It’s as intense as any workout and 100x more fun.
You know, an irrational fear of heights stopped me when I tried it with a friend some years back. But since getting really into hiking, and doing so on some pretty steep trails, it was pointed out to me that my fear of heights is less acute than before we started.
I’ll give it another shot. Maybe I can do it now.
Awesome, if heights are still an issue you could go bouldering instead, it’s just climbing with no ropes and only up to 4ish metres off the ground (above soft mats for landing on if you fall).
It’s probably more popular than toprope (higher) climbing these days as its more accessible and can easily be done in groups of friends. Requires more strength and less endurance, but equally fun (more so for some people) as top roping.
It’s probably a very good way to get over your fear though, just having to jump from 12m with a rope does take some willpower initially but I don’t even think about it anymore.
For most of my life I always hated the idea of exercise just for the sake of exercise. I would try to find activities where exercise was an associated benefit. Hiking, skateboarding, rock climbing etc. Eventually being an adult slowly killed all of my recreational fitness outlets and I ended up teetering on the edge of overweight.
With the goal of getting back in shape, I tried a few gyms but I never got into it. It always felt like a chore. Turns out the problem for me was that I am a cheap bastard, and I was only considering the least expensive discount shitty gyms. One of my friends convinced me to try out a pricier more fully featured gym and it made a huge difference. Well maintained equipment, group classes, child care while you work out, showers that didn’t scare me. It was a lot less intimidating, and it switched the gym experience from feeling like a chore to feeling like a break.
Not saying it’d be the same for everyone, just what ended up working for me.
The trick is to do it regularly and develop an addiction. I worked in an care home one summer and after that I promised myself to exercise until I die.
Embarrassment humor. It’s always sunny. How I met your mother. Arrested development. I think you should leave. I can’t stand cringe.
I’m the same way. It usually makes me uncomfortable and I don’t want to watch it.
Something similar with reality TV. I start to get irritated. I know the situations are fabricated and edited but it gets me worked up and I hate it.
I tend to just feel bad for the characters involved, I don’t understand the appeal.
God I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I thought everyone likes embarrassment humor and maybe I was getting a little cynical about “how bad taste is getting” or something. So good to know that others call it “cringe” (in one way, not in the other) and can’t watch it either.
“I Think You Should Leave” is like if 8 year olds are suddenly thrust into adulthood but didn’t mature on the short trip there.
Running. It’s the cheapest, easiest form of exercise, but it absolutely bores me to death and i just can’t deal with it after 5 minutes.
I don’t mind most other forms of exercise, it’s just that they all require more time, effort or resources. Going to the gym requires a gym membership, basketball requires friends, etc.
hiking is basically running but better
You’ve gotta do it for even longer to burn the same amount of calories though!
just do a more difficult hike at a faster pace, you can burn A LOT of calories climbing hills and navigating underbrush
Try low intensity while listening to a podcast. 80% of runs are best done at a pace where you can easily hold a conversation and breath through your nose (5/10 effort).
I’m listening to history podcasts now and it feels incredibly relaxing and makes my whole day better. Now I don’t even like rest days anymore. 🙃
Do you like audioboks or podcasts? Listening to something while running really helped me to find more interest in running/walking more. You do need a good pair of headphones so that they don’t fall out of your ears, though.
try roller skates. saves your knees and not boring.
@eyy @MisterHavoc as someone who might be mistaken as being active, I loathe running and wish I didn’t. Every other exercise (most of which I love) is just less convenient. Biking, swimming, hiking, sports - all require extra steps (equipment or environment or other people). If I liked running even a little more it would be so practical to just throw on shoes and go whenever.
But the moment my legs are pumping and my lungs are aching there’s nothing to distract me from feeling like I’m DYING.
this is exactly how I feel! I don’t get any sense of achievement from running a certain distance or running faster than I did before, and it feels terrible (and I know I can stop that feeling if i just stop running). Almost every other sport gets me that sense of achievement but requires more time, money or effort in some form.
It’s all about the activity. My younger kid is extremely athletic: he did a 5k on a whim and kept up with the runners club without preparation. However he hates running, and gives similar reasons. His activity is soccer. Soccer gives a point to running. That kid will run the entire game if he’s playing soccer, but even he can’t stand running
People, cause love and friendship.
I feel this. This probably stems from childhood issues and a string of failed relationships but I just can’t be comfortable around really any social groups I’ve had for very long. Functionally I’m great, people seem to like talking to me and want my company. So we’ll do a few get together sessions and then my fatigue will make me slowly fizzle out. It really sucks.
On the brightside though, I do love my own company and have made peace with having a lot of holidays and special occasions on my own or with the cat.
Kodemystic
I’m comfortable too with being by myself. I just think it would improve my life if I felt I could trust people more. Or at least let go of some unarmed something in me that just gets hurt or disappointed by people. I’d like to connect more and not give a fuck when people disappoint me, and just forgive and let go.
Bananas.
Healthy ✔️ Comes in its own container ✔️ Tasty ✔️
I try one every year thinking this will be my year.
Unfortunately the texture kills me
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Ok listen, if you want to get into bananas, you might wanna try banana and Nutella.
I thought it was too minor to bring up, but: Nutella. People rave about it and I love the concept, but it’s just flavorless and waxy. Very anticlimactic
I don’t even like chocolate. But Nutella ? They got me good.
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48% oil 48% sugar 4% chocolate
But I f love that crap
While I love bananas so can’t relate, maybe my hatred of tomatoes is similar. I can’t stand the things. However I love tomato sauce and soup and juice. I love salsa, and stews, etc. I love things that tomatoes make. Presumably it’s a texture thing.
Have you tried things with bananas in them, to separate the taste from the texture? Someone else mentioned smoothies, which is a great choice for taste but no banana texture
Career growth. Works keeps telling me for years about how they want to promote me into a new role, but I keep turning them down. Like bruh yeah it’s more pay but it’s more hours ya know.
I’d rather finish work 5pm everyday then stay back till 8pm for a few grand more which is even worse after tax.
That’s completely normal, and a large portion of people here in Europe would do the same as you do. There is this saying where “people in North America life to work, people in Europe work to life”. Because who cares if you make more money if you barely have the time to actually enjoy it?
Not trying to say one continent is better than the other, but it is a very clear difference in work-life balance mentality.
Nothing wrong with that
I see people I’ve known that are in higher roles and they’re overworked and put in like 50% more hours than I do. They probably make 20% more but I make enough to be very happy. So what’s the point?
If you have enough money, you don’t need 2x enough money.
Maybe find a way to define “career growth” for you, instead of the company’s version? I’ve been pretty happy with increased freedom, increased decision-making, without the extra hours and without having to deal with people.
Math. I’m embarrassingly bad at math, like can’t do it in my head, don’t get the math meme jokes, can’t add fractions even on paper bad. I took 3 remedial math classes in college before they let me take the one that actually counted for credit. Just thinking about doing math gives me anxiety. I know I could get all sorts of better-paying jobs if I was better at it, but it’s like my brain refuses to learn it beyond the basics. I really envy anyone who’s good at it.
There are specific learning disabilities around math. If you think your issue might be something fundamental about how your brain works, you should look into dyscalculia
I have this and I always struggled with math. I was terrible at mental math and I wanted to be better. I changed all of my clocks to military time so I had to do a very small and easy mental math problem if I wanted to know the time. I started to get better at it and now I am better than most people I know (not by a whole lot, and it does still take me a while to get more difficult problems done). I now enjoy trying more difficult problems just for fun. I also developed some interesting methods to chunk problems in my head so they are easier to manage.
It’s not about hours of practice. Small incremental changes over time can be a better way to go about it.
I’m the same way. I just had to keep trying to figure it out, and eventually something clicked. I’m still bad at doing math in my head, and I found out that different types of math math more sense than others. Like I’m really bat at algebra and calculus, but I can get geometry and trigonometry. It just took WAY more practice for me than other people I know.
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I feel the same way about movies. I dislike commiting more than 90 minutes to something unless it’s really good.
Do you commit 90+ minutes to social media or YouTube and the like?
Tomatoes.
Tomatoes are in so many recipes, they’re healthy, supposedly can even make good snacks.
ABSOLUTELY disgusting. Flavor, texture, smell, all of the above are just repugnant. I hate that’s the case.
When you cut a tomato and that semi-slimy juice pours out along with pits - DISGUSTING!
Ye, good tomatoes are not supposed to have a lot of that jelly stuff. They have more flesh per tomato, and the jelly stuff inside isn’t as slimy. Where I live it’s not difficult at all to get my hands on good (and cheap) tomatoes, but I also spent some time in other regions where the tomato situation was dire indeed.
Here they call the good ones coração de boi - they are just flesh, no slime. I eat them raw as salad and they are delicious. Other tomatoes only cooked into nothing in a sauce.
The trick is narrowing down what is so repugnant. I also can’t stand tomatoes, even preparing them. They feel like some sci-fi horror fleshy grenade thing about to explode and cover us all, and the smell is just rotten food
But realistically for me it’s the texture. I’m fine with tomatoes being gross because I can enjoy tomato juice, tomato sauce, marinara, etc. I get all the benefits and someone else deals with the gross parts. Enough cooking and adding spices, and they can add a lot to a meal
Enough cooking and adding spices, and they can add a lot to a meal
Lets be honest, Indian butter chicken is why I don’t just outright say I’m allergic to them because that is delicious and apparently tomatoes are a main ingredient with the sauce.
The texture is a high part, I’ll always remember “horror fleshy grenade” about them now, but my dad who hates tomatoes as well found heirloom grape tomatoes and eats them just straight. Okay, I’ll try them. Nope… that I don’t know how to describe other than tomato taste just was there and awful.
I can eat marinara and tomato sauce, but if I can have an alternative 10/10 I’ll pick something else, ketchup I don’t really like, and if it’s spicy enough I enjoy salsa as long as it’s not chunky, but that’s because I find salsa is like butter chicken, the tomato taste isn’t there, just a vehicle for the spices.
But seriously, I’m the guy when everyone is ordering a pizza I know I’ll be able to eat it but I’ll be “meh” unless there’s a white sauce pizza.
Indian butter chicken for the win! Reminds me that I need to pick up spices for it. I’ve tried jarred sauce and it’s not the same as freshly prepared restaurant food. However I haven’t made it from scratch yet because that’s a lot of spices I wouldn’t normally use and may not use up
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Same. I play RPG video games because I want to “be” the protagonist, live in that world for a while, and get swept away in a satisfying story I can experience from within in the way that only a video game can do.
I never liked MMORPGs, because A) hearing some squeaky child from across the country tell me how much sex he has with my mom does not help my immersion into the fantasy world, and 2) the fact that they are designed to keep you playing forever means there’s not ever going to be a satisfying end to the story by design.
What turned me off of ESO was the class system. I just wanted to be an orc warrior or rogue, not a “dragon knight” or “night blade.” While I would normally applaud the creativity, it seems out of place in an mmo. When I’m the legendary world-saving hero in the single player games, I get normal skills. When I’m one face in the crowd, I get these grandiose titles and flamboyant costumes that everyone else gets. Seems backwards.
Old WoW player, hit Guild Wars, EVE Online and ESO. Had fun in them… but I had a lot of the same problems you’re talking about. EVE was fun because it was screw the story, the fights are on, but any of the others, there’s story and your character is off to the side.
Few months ago a friend got me into Final Fantasy 14. Note, it’s the first FF game I’ve played so I didn’t go in with the love like so many but holy lord it scratches that RPG itch I’ve been looking for for years in an mmo setting… like straight up the story is at a point where I say my character is really not in a good place. Frankly it’s story is better than some of the single player games I’ve gotten to recently.
Beer
I’m curious, why beer? I love beer and its many varieties, but not liking it seems like an overall win. It’s awful for your body, we (Americans at least) tend to consume way too much of it at a time, and if your aim is to get drunk there are far more effective ways to accomplish it.
It’s ubiquitous, cheap, many places only carry it and wine, and all your friends love it, plus craft beer is huge now. Being the weirdo that won’t drink it isn’t really fun.
As a huge craft beer fan, not to push anyone toward alcohol, but I feel like I need to point out there are many styles and strengths of beer to match a variety of tastes. Of course, then it’s no longer cheap.
If you do want to give it a try, most craft brew pubs will sell a “flight” for tasting several possibilities, that may be a good introduction, and the bartender can try to match your tastes with appropriate styles.
Although I do second the guy saying not liking beer is a good problem to have, for both your health and wallet
I’m a super taster so all beer just tastes like fermented garbage to me
For the record, America is fairly low on the beer consumption by country list.
Meat - I’m a vegetarian, though I take a lot of interest in cuisine, and while I may not eat meat personally, it’s undeniable that it’s a core ingredient for so many beloved dishes across the world. Maybe one day lab-grown or plant-based stuff will be able to serve as a common, cheap, and indistinguishable substitute, because I do want to appreciate all the food the world has to offer while sticking to my ideals as much as I can.
Sauces on foods. No, hear me out! Since I was young any kind of sauce on my food really bothers me. I just can’t enjoy it and usually don’t eat at all or pick around it if I can’t get it removed.
Nearly every menu item and nearly every cuisine includes a sauce, and it’s often prepared with the sauce in an unremovable state.
Fortunately it’s easier these days than when I was young to order it on the side, so I can just not eat it. But it’s a mild inconvenience that I’d never wish on anyone (except my enemies).
Fascinating. How do you feel about soups? Is it something about liquid food?
